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Work Life Balance

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Work life balance.  We are all searching for it, we all want it.  We want to be able to do all things impeccably and still have the time, attention and energy to do whatever else we desire to do.  Sounds good, but it doesn’t always happen.  So what do you do to find or achieve work life balance and is it possible?

I think the first thing that we need to understand is that work/life balance will look different on different days.  If there are days when you have more appointments than usual, then your work/life balance will be different on that day as opposed to a day when there are no additional duties, appointments or responsibilities.  Additionally, if you work outside of the home, your work life balance will also be different compared to someone who works from home.  The same if you are single or married, have children or no children.  For each individual, work/life balance will be something different.

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The key to finding work/life balance is to find what works for you.  No one can give you the perfect roadmap or manual on how to run your life, so figure out what works best for you.  You can listen and take bits and pieces from others but it is up to you to construct that unique puzzle that make the best life for yourself.  You are the best judge in knowing and understanding how work/life balance best fits into your life.

I know personally, it is difficult for me to do anything other than the basics early in the morning.  Outside of shower, dressing, makeup, devotion, journaling and coffee, my mornings are shot.  If I add anything else to this list, I will end up rushing, running late and being frustrated.  So I don’t add anything else.  I enjoy afternoon or evening workouts.  I used to workout before bed and shower, that was the best sleep ever. The key is that I had to adjust my schedule and do what was best me for and for my life.  It is ultimately up to you to figure out what works.

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Work Life balance is possible.  It really can happen.  It is just up to you to be realistic, find what works for you, make a schedule, and stick to it.  We can do it all, have it all and be successful, we just have to figure out the best way to do it.  Good luck on your road to work/life balance.  Tell me about your journey and how you are enjoying the destination.

Be Blessed, Be Fabulous!

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The Hardest Thing

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Lately, my life has been in a holding pattern, I would dare say a self-imposed holding pattern.  There are things that are going great in my life and things that are not so great.  There have been struggles, victories and days where I just wanted to stay in bed and eat a bucket of French vanilla ice cream.  There have been some high highs and some low lows. What I am beginning to realize is that I have been my own worst enemy.

There have been times in my life where I felt that I didn’t deserve the good things, the easy things and that everything would be a fight, a struggle a WWE level wrestling match.  While my job and career are spent to a large degree helping and motivating others, there are times when I lack self-motivation and I find myself needing to be motivated, helped and pushed.  I am just keeping it real, there are some days where it is a real struggle.

There are times when it takes as much energy to smile as it does to lift a 200lb weight, and the tears come from out of the blue and flow non-stop.   There are times when I have to repeatedly remind myself of all of the blessings around me and all of the things I have survived, endured, overcome, but it still feels as though it is just not enough.  Then there are times when on this entrepreneurial journey, where I question if leaving the comfort of my 9-5 was worth it, even though I know the job was killing me emotionally and mentally.  There are the times when there are more bills than money and more responsibilities than time in the day.

There are those moments when you make every attempt to be vulnerable and helpful only to end up misunderstood and judged.  The people you thought knew you best turn out to be as much of a stranger as people you don’t know at all.  You put on the makeup, the hair, the perfect outfit but you are no more than a mannequin on display for those around you.  The face is smiling but the eyes say nothing.

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The reality of the situation is that sometimes the hardest thing to do is to love yourself and the life you are living.  The other hard thing to do is to change your thinking, change your circumstances and change your situation.  Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t you are right”.  How true and powerful that statement is.  It is often hard to find peace in the darkness because the light exposes too much.

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I have come to realize that I am in a valley.  Not buried, definitely not dead but in a valley.  And while there are some not so good things in the valley, you can also find some great things in the valley.  So while I journey through this valley experience I can say with firm conviction:

I am ok

I am going to make it

I won’t be in the valley forever

Look out for the person that emerges from this valley; she will be a conqueror

This valley will make me stronger, wiser and better

 

Be Blessed Be Fabulous!

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