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Types of Friends

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We all have several types and categories of friends.  Single friends, married friends, guy friends and possibly, gay friends.  Some friends may overlap categories and some may only be in one category but undoubtedly we all have a variety of friends.  Here are a few categories of friends I have and what they mean to me.

Single friends.  These are the friends that you can count on when you need a night out or when you need to talk to someone in the middle of the night.  They are the ones you can go on a spur of the moment shopping trip with or even the impromptu weekend getaway.  They are the ones who can meet you at the bar after work for a drink or listen to you gush about your new boo or your worries over what the future may hold.  Your single friends may also share similar experiences such as dating, experimentation with internet dating, reproductive issues and concerns about living and navigating life as a single woman.

Married Friends.  Married friends can be some of your best relationship experts.  Especially those who have been married for an extended period of time.  They can be examples of what healthy relationships look like or they can be examples of what not to do in relationships.  Married friends can be the voice of reason when it comes to dating or couple situations.  Married friends can be great support systems and they can often be relied on for a great meal.  It is a good thing to have married friends as a part of your friend circle because they bring a rich and fresh perspective to an aspect of life we currently do not possess.

Guy Friends.  Guy friends are fun and they are also great listeners.  They can give you a great male perspective in the areas of dating and relationships and they make great companions.  They will often give you their honest, heartfelt opinions and they know how to deliver the opinions while at the same time remaining sensitive to your feelings.  They also heed the advice we give when it comes to their dating lives as well.  Guy friends can be as much fun to be around as your girlfriends and can be a refreshing male voice in the sea of singleness and single women we may find ourselves surrounded by.

Gay Friends.  Gay male friends can be the icing on the cake for single women.  They are the best of both worlds, a combination of your single girlfriends mixed with the male perspective. They are like a chocolate and vanilla swirl ice cream cone a little of each flavor.  Gay friend provide a fresh perspective on many areas of life and are THE BEST shopping companions.  They will tell you if your ass looks big in that dress while offering an alternative that make your look fabulous.  They are also the best friends to take on that trip to the makeup counter because they will make sure you leave looking just as fabulous as they do.

This is just a few examples of the types of friends we may have.  I value my friendships with all of my friends as I pray that they value my friendship as well.  I love the great flavor that they have added to my life.  Having the ability to share and grow because of my relationships with them allows me to become a better person.  And I am grateful and thankful what my friendships mean to me.

Bring On The Action

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Who says that being single has to be dull and boring?  Being single can be adventurous and exciting.  It is up to you to determine what you want to do and how you want to do it.  You can get your team together to support you and in many cases participate in what you want to do.  Live your highest and best dreams and don’t allow anything or anyone to deter you from finding your action!

If you are unattached, and are not a parent, you have the freedom to come and go as you please and pick up at the spur of the moment and do whatever you please.  If you are a parent or married or part of a couple you may have to make plans, but action should still be a part of your life.  Sometimes when we become parents or married or coupled up we tend to become complacent and stay in on weekends, don’t go out anymore, sleep in and forget about all of the things we wanted to do.  Now while I am a huge fan of sleeping in, there are times when we have to bring the action to our lives. 

I have a friend who want to go sky diving.  Now while I would NEVER sky dive, I do support her dream to sky dive.  We (myself and another friend) decided that we would meet her in the park with lunch once her dive is over.  One of my desires is to zip line, either at a resort or down the Vegas strip, so when I make it to the Caribbean or Vegas I plan to explore my adventurous side.  Recently, I enjoy a night out clubbing.  While it has been years since I went to a club and enjoyed the music and danced and enjoyed a drink, it was a nice night with good company.  Now while it may be some time before I do that again, (when I got home I was knocked out) it was an action packed fun-filled night. 

Action does not stop because you are single.  Life should not stop because you are single, even if you are a single parent or in a relationship.  Everyone needs a little adventure in their lives and single women are no different.  Think about what you would like to do, run a marathon, sky dive, zip line, pole dance, drive a race car.  Whatever it is make plans and then do it.  Bring on the action, doing something is so much more fun than just talking about it.  I look forward to hearing about all of the adventures you all decide to take.