The New Normal

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There is a fact that America has to face.  Married life is not the norm anymore.  In fact there are more single in the world now more than ever before.  This is becoming the new normal.  Watch out world because here we come.

According to the US Census Bureau, single, professional, African American women are the largest growing demographic in the United States.  There are more single women that are heading households and running things.  Society would have us to think that there is something wrong with us, that we are too this or not enough of that (insert your this or that here).  The reality of the situation is that we are working more on us and less on please others.  We are learning that we do no have to apologize for getting that advanced degree or working longer hours so we can get that promotion.  As Beyoncé says “Who Run the World!”

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To all of the single women out there it is time to come out of hiding, it is time to no longer be ashamed because you are single.  As a matter of fact it is your time to shine.  It is time that we stop conforming to society to be who they think we should be and be proud of who we are and where we are at this point in our lives.  There is nothing wrong with marriage, I am a proponent of marriage when people marry for the right reasons and not just because they are lonely or pregnant.  There may be a time when marriage comes, but until then God has granted us lives to be lived not to be stagnant and waiting for what may or may not be.

The New Normal is the single, confident woman.  The woman that knows that she can be a dynamo in the boardroom and a loving and caring wife.  The New Normal is the woman who does not compromise because of some imaginary clock or the smooth talker that is attempting to sell her a dream.  The New Normal is the single woman that can be a Boss and a Blessing at the same time without skipping a beat.  The New Normal is the woman who is single and happy, not a depressed ‘spinster’ waiting on her knight in rusty armor.  We are the New Normal and we are proud because of this not in spite of this.


Winding Down


As 2014 comes to an end, I think that it is important to reflect on all that has happened and what’s to come.  First of all I would like to thank all of my readers for taking this journey with me.  Blogging was a lot more work than I originally thought.  To all of those who started the year with me and attended the launch party you help and support are invaluable to me.  Words cannot express my gratitude for your support of my vision.

These past few months I have been MIA, which is not a good look for the blog.  However most of it was time well spent working on my dissertation and researching and reading and working my regular gig.  I have successfully defended my dissertation proposal and now it is time to move forward conducting research completing the project and graduating!  I see light at the end of the tunnel finally.  This will be a huge chunk off of my plate.

I had such grand and great ideas for the This Single Sole community.  See for me the purpose of this blog was not just to build a blog but to build a community and place where women could discuss and share life’s events and ordeals one week at a time.  And while I did not accomplish this task 2015 provides me with 365 more days to do it and do it big.  I have already started planning and the future looks bright.

I look forward to the next chapter of This Single Sole.  I look forward to the events and the blogs and the sharing.  I look forward to coming back with a bang.  The first event will be a re-launch party scheduled for the end of February.  Since the first one occurred on a super snowy day, prayerfully February will be gracious to me next year and the weather will be mild and accommodating,  So I hope everyone has a happy and safe New Year and I look forward to growing with you all next year.