STFU

Yep, you read the title correctly. STFU!

Recently I read a post that encouraged people to shut up. Of course after reflecting on the post I cannot find it to link it here. I will keep trying to find it and if and or when I do, I will share the link. The post startled me. Not because it was obnoxious or rude, but because there was so much truth to the post.

I have always been a talker, I was the child who had “talks too much” marked on her report card EVERY MARKING PERIOD, EVERY REPORT CARD. I was the one who would tell before the entire story had an ending. My grandmother often told me that my mouth would get me in trouble. What she actually said was, “That mouth of yours is going to get you in a world of trouble”. But I kept talking. I keep talking. My uncle used to say that it took him days to realized that I had cussed him out because of my extensive vocabulary and my use of words.

My mouth has assisted me in gaining a reputation of being bossy, opinionated, rude, direct and some other words I am certain were not said to my face and will not be repeated in my presence. The truth is that my mouth has saved me, and others at times. My mouth has been a voice for the scared and the voiceless. My voice has been a place of comfort for those that needed comforting, my voice has been an advocate for the underserved. I have used my voice to speak truth to power and the preach the gospel and to teach students. My voice has spoken at international conferences and empowerment events in several states. My voice has been heard in churches and on many virtual platforms. I have to say that I am a talking bad ass!

However, there are times when shutting up is the best option or the best advice. I am not sure of the psychological reason why I have felt the need to be vocal since I was a child. My mom used to tell me the “children are to be seen and not heard’, maybe that’s where silencing my voice started. Maybe being vocal was my middle finger to statements like that. As I age and mature, I am realizing that I don’t always need to say everything I’m thinking or what’s on my mind.

In certain situations I have learned that some things are better left unsaid. I am also learning that it is ok to let people be wrong about you. Those who want to know the truth or understand will seek it out. Some situations don’t require my help and there are times when I should just mind my own Black Business and STFU. The power of life and death lies in the tongue, you can speak life or death over your life or your situation and other situations so be careful.

I am now more intentional about what I say, who I say it too and how I say it. Even before reading the post about shutting up, I was working on curbing my tongue. Silence can golden and being quiet can promote peace. Be intentional about what you say and who you say it to and most importantly as mush as possible use your voice for good or STFU!

Be Blessed! Be Fabulous!

Been So Long

I guess since Anita Baker (IYKYK) is going to be on tour this year, this title is appropriate. But it’s also true. It’s been so long. It seems like it has been forever since my last post. I have no real excuse as to why I have been MIA, just have. Life has been lifing but I am sure that everyone can say that.

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I made it to 2023 with more clarity and more focus than I have had in some time and for that I am thankful and grateful. I am glad to be back and to be honest, its time that I got back to my roots. I started blogging as an outlet when working on my dissertation and from that point on it was carthartic for me and now, i find myself in a place when an outlet, such as this may be helpful.

I also think this is the time where I start to put myself out there more. I have written for several nationally published publications and I have also had the pleasure of being editor-in-chief of two online publications. Lately, I have the pleasure of being able to edit several books. So it’s not like I have not been busy, but most of the work done was for someone else. This blog is for me, and of course the readers and subscribers.

So I share all that to say, I’m back again. I have so much to share and so much on my mind. Let’s collectively make 2023 on of the best year’s yet!

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