Tag: friends

Winding Down

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As 2014 comes to an end, I think that it is important to reflect on all that has happened and what’s to come.  First of all I would like to thank all of my readers for taking this journey with me.  Blogging was a lot more work than I originally thought.  To all of those who started the year with me and attended the launch party you help and support are invaluable to me.  Words cannot express my gratitude for your support of my vision.

These past few months I have been MIA, which is not a good look for the blog.  However most of it was time well spent working on my dissertation and researching and reading and working my regular gig.  I have successfully defended my dissertation proposal and now it is time to move forward conducting research completing the project and graduating!  I see light at the end of the tunnel finally.  This will be a huge chunk off of my plate.

I had such grand and great ideas for the This Single Sole community.  See for me the purpose of this blog was not just to build a blog but to build a community and place where women could discuss and share life’s events and ordeals one week at a time.  And while I did not accomplish this task 2015 provides me with 365 more days to do it and do it big.  I have already started planning and the future looks bright.

I look forward to the next chapter of This Single Sole.  I look forward to the events and the blogs and the sharing.  I look forward to coming back with a bang.  The first event will be a re-launch party scheduled for the end of February.  Since the first one occurred on a super snowy day, prayerfully February will be gracious to me next year and the weather will be mild and accommodating,  So I hope everyone has a happy and safe New Year and I look forward to growing with you all next year.

Types of Friends

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We all have several types and categories of friends.  Single friends, married friends, guy friends and possibly, gay friends.  Some friends may overlap categories and some may only be in one category but undoubtedly we all have a variety of friends.  Here are a few categories of friends I have and what they mean to me.

Single friends.  These are the friends that you can count on when you need a night out or when you need to talk to someone in the middle of the night.  They are the ones you can go on a spur of the moment shopping trip with or even the impromptu weekend getaway.  They are the ones who can meet you at the bar after work for a drink or listen to you gush about your new boo or your worries over what the future may hold.  Your single friends may also share similar experiences such as dating, experimentation with internet dating, reproductive issues and concerns about living and navigating life as a single woman.

Married Friends.  Married friends can be some of your best relationship experts.  Especially those who have been married for an extended period of time.  They can be examples of what healthy relationships look like or they can be examples of what not to do in relationships.  Married friends can be the voice of reason when it comes to dating or couple situations.  Married friends can be great support systems and they can often be relied on for a great meal.  It is a good thing to have married friends as a part of your friend circle because they bring a rich and fresh perspective to an aspect of life we currently do not possess.

Guy Friends.  Guy friends are fun and they are also great listeners.  They can give you a great male perspective in the areas of dating and relationships and they make great companions.  They will often give you their honest, heartfelt opinions and they know how to deliver the opinions while at the same time remaining sensitive to your feelings.  They also heed the advice we give when it comes to their dating lives as well.  Guy friends can be as much fun to be around as your girlfriends and can be a refreshing male voice in the sea of singleness and single women we may find ourselves surrounded by.

Gay Friends.  Gay male friends can be the icing on the cake for single women.  They are the best of both worlds, a combination of your single girlfriends mixed with the male perspective. They are like a chocolate and vanilla swirl ice cream cone a little of each flavor.  Gay friend provide a fresh perspective on many areas of life and are THE BEST shopping companions.  They will tell you if your ass looks big in that dress while offering an alternative that make your look fabulous.  They are also the best friends to take on that trip to the makeup counter because they will make sure you leave looking just as fabulous as they do.

This is just a few examples of the types of friends we may have.  I value my friendships with all of my friends as I pray that they value my friendship as well.  I love the great flavor that they have added to my life.  Having the ability to share and grow because of my relationships with them allows me to become a better person.  And I am grateful and thankful what my friendships mean to me.