Mental Health Awareness Month

mental Health awareness month

We are approaching the end of the month of May, and if you knew it or not, May is officially, Mental Health Awareness Month.  There are so many things that could be address or discussed regarding this issue, however I feel that it is important to note one simple thing:  Mental Health Matters.

No matter you race, color, creed, religion or financial status, Mental Health Matters.  We all have moment of the need for mental health treatment, and the real issue is that not many of us seek that treatment when we need it.  We turn to substances, people, things or we go into avoidance mode.  Because we don’t know how to deal with things, we choose to simply not deal with them.  This serves no one.  It definitely does you no good.

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I too have had moments where I have been depressed, down, extremely sensitive and unable to adequately express my emotions.  I have been to counseling, and as a therapist and coach I have counseled others.  I know hurt pain, loss, rejection, loneliness,  sadness and grief.  I have watch loved ones die, I have seen the effect of addiction and I have had to make medical decision for my parent not knowing if he would live or die.  At some point in time we all endure some or most of these things and it takes a toll on our mental health.

As we near the end of Mental Health Awareness month, I want to let you know that you are not alone on this journey.  There are people who are here to listen to help and to just be there if that is what you need.  I have some amazing friends, those who will just hold the phone while I cry, those who take me out for ice cream, and those who know those things I may be ashamed or embarrassed to share with anyone else.  Other than going to see my therapist, who may not always be available when I need her, these people help me to survive.  They are my life line.

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My advice would be to seek help if you need it.  If you don’t feel like yourself, if you feel loss, down, discouraged, if you lack the energy or the desire to do anything or go anywhere, you need to consider talking to someone.  You do not always have to go and find a high priced prestigious therapist.  There are lots of free resources that can get you started on your journey to healing.

The first place to start is with your health insurance.  If you have health insurance, contact you insurance provider and ask about mental health services.  For most employer provided insurances the information may be on your insurance card.  If you are uninsured or if your employer does not provide mental health services organizations such as NAMI: National Alliance on Mental Health have locations around the world that can assist you.

The second thing I would suggest is to build a support system.  Find people who will avail themselves to you, people who will listen and people who will be encouraging but not participate in a pity a party.  People who will help you move past the rut you may find yourself in.  And also be ready when you can to reciprocate when needed.

Finally, do not let stigma keep you from receiving the help and assistance you deserve.  Know that there is nothing, absolutely nothing wrong with mental illness or asking for help.  Millions of people suffer daily and while many do not receive the care or treatment they deserve, millions are speaking up and speaking out daily.  You are not alone on this journey.  It is absolutely ok to ask for and receive help.  Most of the time it is only a phone call away.

Be Blessed! Be Fabulous!



Winding Down


As 2014 comes to an end, I think that it is important to reflect on all that has happened and what’s to come.  First of all I would like to thank all of my readers for taking this journey with me.  Blogging was a lot more work than I originally thought.  To all of those who started the year with me and attended the launch party you help and support are invaluable to me.  Words cannot express my gratitude for your support of my vision.

These past few months I have been MIA, which is not a good look for the blog.  However most of it was time well spent working on my dissertation and researching and reading and working my regular gig.  I have successfully defended my dissertation proposal and now it is time to move forward conducting research completing the project and graduating!  I see light at the end of the tunnel finally.  This will be a huge chunk off of my plate.

I had such grand and great ideas for the This Single Sole community.  See for me the purpose of this blog was not just to build a blog but to build a community and place where women could discuss and share life’s events and ordeals one week at a time.  And while I did not accomplish this task 2015 provides me with 365 more days to do it and do it big.  I have already started planning and the future looks bright.

I look forward to the next chapter of This Single Sole.  I look forward to the events and the blogs and the sharing.  I look forward to coming back with a bang.  The first event will be a re-launch party scheduled for the end of February.  Since the first one occurred on a super snowy day, prayerfully February will be gracious to me next year and the weather will be mild and accommodating,  So I hope everyone has a happy and safe New Year and I look forward to growing with you all next year.