Suffering in Silence

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As I browsed my Facebook timeline this morning, I saw a number of posts speaking to personal, deeply personal issues many of my Facebook friends have been going through.  Most of it was related to illness.  Other posts were related to attempted suicide and survival, still other posts were related to dating or the attempt to find a suitable mate.  Some people were facing diagnostic tests and surgeries while others were reflecting on how far they have come on their journey.  No matter what the circumstance was I am thankful that they had the courage and conviction to share what they had gone through.  Their testimony can lead to a breakthrough or deliverance for someone else.

As I reflect, there were many things that I have experienced in my life and I am thankful that God has given me the strength and at times the platform to share my life experiences.  I was the product of teenage parents, yet I did not repeat the cycle.  I have had various family members that were addicted to alcohol or drugs, which had significant impacts not just on my life but on the lives of other family members as well.  I was molested as a child and I have endured health challenges and relationship issues.  But through it all, I survived, I looked for lessons to be learned and I became a better person because of what I experienced and in spite of what I experienced.

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For people of faith we know that if it had not been for the Lord on our side… For those who are not people of faith, I am not sure where your strength and endurance comes from maybe role models or strong support system, but for those who believe, in the absence of role models and support systems we go to the Rock!  It tales strength and courage to make it through those challenges that seem impossible to bear.  It takes even more strength and courage to talk about your experiences and to be a beacon of hope for others. What I have learned is that as you GROW through what you GO through the lesson is lost on you.  It is more so for others so that they can see God in you and know that THIS TOO SHALL PASS.

Stop suffering in silence.  We were not meant to do that.   We were meant to be a blessing to others, but, know that you cannot be a blessing until you have healed and dealt with the issues that you face.  You don’t want to try to help someone when you are still in the throes of your experiences.  Once you have healed, whether it be getting help from a professional, working on your own issues, reaching out to those who love you make sure to NOT suffer in silence.  And know that there is always a rainbow after the rain.


Resurrection Reflections


           Happy Easter Everyone!

This will not be a blog about Easter per se or the resurrection of Jesus or anything of that manner.  However, thinking about the Ressurection and why we celebrate Easter caused me to think about some things that as single, professional women we may need to resurrect.

Personal Lives

I know too many professional women who have given up their personal lives in pursuit of the degree or the promotion.  They burn the midnight oil, continue going when there is nothing left to give and the only thing they can think about is the next deadline or timeline or meeting.  When was the last time you went out to dinner, not necessarily with anyone else, you could treat yourself to a night at the fancy restaurant as opposed to take out?  What was the last movie you saw, not on Lifetime or Oxygen but in a theatre?  We can become so absorbed in trying to shatter the glass ceiling that we forget about things that once brought us a moment of peace and comfort or solace.  This may be an area in your life that needs resurrecting.


Many times because of our determination and drive to accomplish our next professional or educational goal, our friendships suffer.  While this is never intentional it happens.  At first you are pushing a deadline and forget to return a call or postpone a shopping trip or a night out.  Then before you know it time has morphed into a weeks or months when you haven’t talked or communicated with friends.  While some friends understand that this happens, others may feel some kind of way, but if they are true friends they should understand your hustle/struggle.  There will be times however when you have to take your face out of the books or business reports and make the phone call or send a card in the mail (I am convinced that people like to get things in the mail other than bills).  This may be an area in your life that needs resurrecting.

Love Life

For many single professional women, this is an area of our lives that is just completely dead.  Either we have given up, given in or just given out.  We have tried the friend fix-ups, blind dates, internet dating, happy hour only to still find ourselves single and looking or searching or confused about what we want and how to get there.  We have given up on love and have given up on worrying about the biological clock.  We are sick of being harassed at family gatherings and looking at love this and love that on television.  We refuse to hope.  This may be an area of your life that needs resurrecting.


This is an area we may take for granted.  When was your last checkup?  When was the last time you went to see a doctor because it was a routine and not because you were sick?  When was the last time you went to the gynecologist?  If you are getting older it is time to check on what preventative and diagnostic test you need at the certain age such as mammograms, colonoscopies etc.  How old are your glasses?  We get so busy with life that we put ourselves on the back burner.  Become a better steward of your temple.  This may be an area of your life that needs resurrecting.

While there are many areas of our lives that may need resurrecting this is just a few.  In this season of Spring and new growth and rejuvenation after a looooong winter, resurrecting some things may be just what is in order.  Remember that you do not have to do it all at once.  Focus on one area at a time, pick one thing that you truly want to work on and work it!  As professional women we have proven to ourselves and to the world that we can do great things, now it is time to begin enjoying some of the comforts that our accomplishments bring.