Single Statistics

Women are enjoying great success in their professional lives, pursuing and obtaining post-graduate and professional degrees as well as working in prestigious careers such as medicine, law, higher education and the physical and social sciences.  The evidence demonstrates that as education increases for single, professional women, in many cases marriage rates decrease.  As more women find success in the workplace and seek advanced degrees, their love lives appear to be suffering.
One thing that my research has shown is that statistics regarding single women are dismal. When you look at these statistics, the older we get the less likelihood that we will marry.  If you only focus on what the statistics say I can see how so many single women end up depressed, defeated and down.  However as the quote above states, WE are responsible for our happiness.  It is up to us to choose life and life more abundantly.   It is how we live, and by live I mean actually live, that determines how happy and successful we are.  This means that happiness is a choice and life is for the living.
Here are some of those statistics
·          Women are delaying marriage in pursuit of education and careers
·         Census data shows that about 70% of African American women are not married
·         National surveys show that 42% of women in corporate America do not have children
·         African American women outnumber African American men 12:1
Instead of focusing on what the statistics say and focusing on what society says about being single or living single in a married world being single should not be viewed as a death sentence.  What do you say about your circumstances?  While you may not be able to change the fact that more women are delaying marriage and motherhood, and that in some ethnic groups women far outweigh men, there are many positive advantages to this delay.  One reason for the delay is that many women are choosing to stay in school longer and earn higher degrees in order to further their careers, which ultimately benefits the family.
One of the reasons I started this blog was to show women that there are things we can do instead of waiting around for Mr. Right to fall out of the sky.  We can learn new trades and how to do some things around the house (Home Depot sponsors ladies night out). However, you don’t want to know how to do it all because the plumber or electrician may be single and good looking.  We can take trips with our girls or travel alone.  We can go out to happy hours with or without our friends to meet new people and experience new venues.
What am I saying?  I am saying that the possibilities are endless.  The only limits we have are the ones we have placed on ourselves.  Single and fabulous should be the new way of life in my opinion.  This blog will be dedicated to discussing topics that contribute to single women finding their place in this ‘married’ world and being comfortable not where we are placed within that society but being comfortable in the space we create for ourselves.  Queen Bey said it best when she sang “Who Run the World?”  Girls!

Welcome to my Blog

Welcome to This Single Sole. My name is Sharice. I am currently completing my EdD degree in Counseling Psychology where my area of research is the lives of single, professional, African American, Christian women. What my research has demonstrated is that women globally share many common experiences no matter age, race, sexual orientation, religious afficiation or marital status. Those common experiences were the impetus for starting this blog.

More than a blog, This Single Sole is a forum, a conversational area where we can come together as women and share, learn and grow together. This forum is not meant to be exclusive. Single women have a great deal to learn from their married counterparts. This conversation is also inclusive of the LGBT community as well as divorced or widowed women as well. There are experiences that bond us all as women and This Single Sole will be a place where these experiences will be discussed and shared. So please be encouraged to share this forum with your friends and other women in your lives.

This Single Sole also recognizes the importance of generational dialogue. There is a great deal to be learned from the generations of women that have paved the way for us. I anticipate these dialogues to be mutually beneficial.

This blog is written from my perspective. I am not the official ‘spokesperson’ for all single women, nor do I claim to be or want to be. Having lived my life as a woman that has never been married, I do however have a great deal of insight into living life as a single woman. I have a unique perspective and a distinctive voice that give me great insight that I plan to share with women globally.

In addition to this blog there will be several events planned throughout the year. These events will include the official launch party (Saturday January 18, 2014-see the events page for more information), a Stiletto SociTea party, Girls Night Out at the game, Mar-Ti-Ni night, workshops and conferences. There will also be e-book and other promotional materials available. This Single Sole is a global movement so there may be activities offered in other cities as well. The purpose of these activities will be to celebrate ourselves and our lives. It is my sincere desire that these events will allow us to meet new people, engage our interests in a supportive environment, and lift each other up as we grow and thrive.

The website will also be a useful tool that will incorporate a “Members Only” area, where members will gain access to exclusive events, advanced copies of e-books as well as special gifts. I am looking forward to taking this journey with each of you.

As we move along this journey please feel free to communicate with me and provide your feedback, your ideas for topics and or events or anything else you would like to see incorporated within this community. I welcome and encourage all feedback and suggestions. I thank you for your support and I look forward to a phenomenal year of THIS SINGLE SOLE!

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