Sheros

Every successful person needs a team. No matter what line of work you are in it is almost impossible for one person to wear each and every hat required to make a project successful. The team may not always look like you expect it to look. For most people the team may be your family for others your team may consist of friends. Who is on your team?

My team has been ever evolving my entire life. My team consists of individuals that I have come to trust, respect and love from various aspects of my life. In my mind we are all Supersheroes, women who can conquer any obstacle save the world, look fabulous while doing it all and then sit down to enjoy a French martini. My team is also diverse in our areas of employment. My team consists of educators, engineers, sustainability coordinators, public servants, healthcare workers, government employees, ministers and those who have served their time in the work force and who are now enjoying retirement. I have a great team.

My team has supported me through graduations, funerals, stress, upset, failed relationships, good relationships, financial issues, pain, hurt, heartache, mountaintop moments and valley experiences. They have scolded, me encouraged me, helped me, supported me and most importantly, they have never failed me. They are available 24/7 as I am for them. We support each other. Just as they have been there and supported me, I support them as well.

Most of my team also happen to be single. Is this a bad thing? No. We have all been in relationships. Some of us are in relationships now. Some are dating and some are waiting. A few of my team members are married and it does not change how we care for and support each other. Life presents unique challenges each and every day and it is great that you can round up your group of Supersheroes and face whatever the world throws at you.

Each and everyday this phenomenal group of women play a part in my daily life. They listen, they offer advice, they admonish, they laugh and cry with me and I with them. When the evil villains of life seek to threaten my sanity, steal my joy and step on my dreams I send out my Bat Signal and me and my Sheroes go to battle. I thank God for them.

Single Statistics

Women are enjoying great success in their professional lives, pursuing and obtaining post-graduate and professional degrees as well as working in prestigious careers such as medicine, law, higher education and the physical and social sciences.  The evidence demonstrates that as education increases for single, professional women, in many cases marriage rates decrease.  As more women find success in the workplace and seek advanced degrees, their love lives appear to be suffering.
One thing that my research has shown is that statistics regarding single women are dismal. When you look at these statistics, the older we get the less likelihood that we will marry.  If you only focus on what the statistics say I can see how so many single women end up depressed, defeated and down.  However as the quote above states, WE are responsible for our happiness.  It is up to us to choose life and life more abundantly.   It is how we live, and by live I mean actually live, that determines how happy and successful we are.  This means that happiness is a choice and life is for the living.
Here are some of those statistics
·          Women are delaying marriage in pursuit of education and careers
·         Census data shows that about 70% of African American women are not married
·         National surveys show that 42% of women in corporate America do not have children
·         African American women outnumber African American men 12:1
Instead of focusing on what the statistics say and focusing on what society says about being single or living single in a married world being single should not be viewed as a death sentence.  What do you say about your circumstances?  While you may not be able to change the fact that more women are delaying marriage and motherhood, and that in some ethnic groups women far outweigh men, there are many positive advantages to this delay.  One reason for the delay is that many women are choosing to stay in school longer and earn higher degrees in order to further their careers, which ultimately benefits the family.
One of the reasons I started this blog was to show women that there are things we can do instead of waiting around for Mr. Right to fall out of the sky.  We can learn new trades and how to do some things around the house (Home Depot sponsors ladies night out). However, you don’t want to know how to do it all because the plumber or electrician may be single and good looking.  We can take trips with our girls or travel alone.  We can go out to happy hours with or without our friends to meet new people and experience new venues.
What am I saying?  I am saying that the possibilities are endless.  The only limits we have are the ones we have placed on ourselves.  Single and fabulous should be the new way of life in my opinion.  This blog will be dedicated to discussing topics that contribute to single women finding their place in this ‘married’ world and being comfortable not where we are placed within that society but being comfortable in the space we create for ourselves.  Queen Bey said it best when she sang “Who Run the World?”  Girls!