Up and Out



I can remember several conversations with friends about what to do on the weekend.  After a hard week at work often the last thing you want to even think about is getting dressed and going out to do anything.  The most appealing thing appears to be the couch and some comfy pajamas and maybe a chick flick.  But then I would often ask how do we expect to meet anyone?  How long can the nomadic behavior last and why do we continue to complain about it when we are the solutions to the problem?  There are several things a girl can do in order to get out of the rut and out of the house.  

There are a million things for us to do (some of these things we will go over in great detail later).  We can always make time for friends and family, but there are things that we can do to enhance and expose ourselves to the world around us. The first thing you can do is embrace culture.  If you live in a major metropolitan city (like I do) there are hundreds of museums and galleries to be explored. Do you research since many of the museums and galleries offer free days or discounts for local residents.  

Take advantage of the special events going on around the city. Here in Chicago there is Restaurant week and Theater week, where you can explore great cuisine and major shows at a steep discount. Many places also offer specials for ladies and girls night out. Consider a trip to your local library to re-engage in the world of knowledge and maybe to meet new friends or meet up with old friends.  

I love the zoo and carnivals.  There is nothing wrong with stopping by the carnival while you are out running errands.  During the winter here in Chicago the local zoos (there are two) offer the opportunity to see the animals as well as a spectacular light show. Though it may be an event geared towards youth and families, there is nothing wrong with singles participating in the festivities as well.  

The truth of the matter is that you can sit home doing nothing and allow life to pass you by, or you can decide that you want to take advantage of all that the world and life has to offer.  This does not mean that you will be out and about every weekend, but it does mean that there can be more fun, more excitement, more adventure added to your life just by taking advantage of what is already at your disposal.  

Singleness is not an incurable condition.  It is not a reason or an excuse to stay in the house and hibernate.  We can only be as active and alive as we choose to be.  It is up to us to take life by the wheel and drive it until the wheels fall off.  So ladies let us not bind ourselves to our homes and comfy pajamas.  Let us get out of the house and Turn Up!.  



Valentine’s Day for One


As we approach the day that has been designated as the day of the love, the day of couples, the day of togetherness many of us find ourselves single and without a date. If you were not able to capitalize on the flirting tips shared in last week’s blog, this week offers a few suggestions for those who are still single or for those who may have a significant other who has to work or who will be unavailable for the day. Here are a few simple suggestions on how to have a happy Valentine’s Day for one.
1. Treat yourself. What better day than the day of love to show some love to yourself. Buy yourself a Valentine’s Day gift. Send yourself a dozen roses, treat yourself to dinner. (If you have reservations about eating alone, order take out and go home and have a candlelight dinner for one.)

2. Consider a spa day. You may want to gather some of your single friends and spend the day being pampered at a spa. Enjoy the massage, facial, mani and pedi as well as the relaxation. You deserve it.

3. Retail therapy. Treat yourself to something you have been wanting to buy and putting it off. That bracelet or necklace or that pair of earrings. You don’t have to break the bank and you don’t have to wait for someone else to make the purchase for you. Though it may be nice to receive gifts, there is never any harm in buying a gift for yourself.

4. Make it a girls day or night in. If you want to be alone, curl up on the couch with your favorite chick flicks. Bridesmaids, Sex in the City, Something’s Got to Give, just to name a few. Or you can invite friends over and host a girls night in. Have each friend bring their favorite wine and sample over pizza or Chinese take-out.

These are just a few suggestions but the possibilities are endless. Valentine’s Day is just one day out of the year, but it is not a day that should be ignored because you are single. After all you have the best mate in the world YOU. Who knows you better than yourself? Who buys you gifts that do not have to be returned? Who knows exactly what size you wear and what your favorite color is? YOU. Instead of looking at what you don’t have make yourself the focus. Have a Wonderful Valentine’s Day and make this one the best one yet!