Mommy & Mimosas

This past Sunday May 20, 2018, I had the pleasure of being the panel moderator at the Mommy & Mimosas event hosted by Nisha Hopkins, of Pretty in Power Coaching Agency and the Mogul Mom Society.  The day was filled with sisterhood, a dynamic panel, good food, vendors and of course mimosas.  The women were able to share, ask questions engage each other and learn from one another.

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The panel included women who were entrepreneurs, authors, professionals all of them moms.  The panelist and guest were able to engage a variety of topics and questions from dating as a single mom, to how to support your partner while you both chase your dreams.  There were also moms in attendance who has lost children, and they too opened up and shared their stories as well.

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With Nisha Hopkins

 

The event started with speaker Raven Kay founder of She Who Wins Movement.  The panel included Keyonda Pyles, from the blog arealurbanmom.com, Kenyetta Watkins of Just Like You Inc., a mentoring program for teen parents and high school students.  Shenita Hurt, author of Divorced, Now What? and founder of ReNewHer LLC., Dominique  Williams, author and empowerment speaker and of course the visionary and host Nisha Hopkins.

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Mommy and Mimosa Panelist

Nisha did a fantastic job of celebrating moms but also creating an atmosphere of sisterhood and an environment conducive to support, encouragement and growth.  Even though I am not a mom, I could still relate to the issues and struggles that many of the women faced.  The conversation flowed, the mimosas flowed and at times the tears flowed.  It was an amazing day and a get demonstration of how African American women can come together, support, uplift and encourage each other.  Nisha’s next mommy event coming October 2018.

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Keyonda Pyles, Me and Nisha Hopkins

The Hardest Thing

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Lately, my life has been in a holding pattern, I would dare say a self-imposed holding pattern.  There are things that are going great in my life and things that are not so great.  There have been struggles, victories and days where I just wanted to stay in bed and eat a bucket of French vanilla ice cream.  There have been some high highs and some low lows. What I am beginning to realize is that I have been my own worst enemy.

There have been times in my life where I felt that I didn’t deserve the good things, the easy things and that everything would be a fight, a struggle a WWE level wrestling match.  While my job and career are spent to a large degree helping and motivating others, there are times when I lack self-motivation and I find myself needing to be motivated, helped and pushed.  I am just keeping it real, there are some days where it is a real struggle.

There are times when it takes as much energy to smile as it does to lift a 200lb weight, and the tears come from out of the blue and flow non-stop.   There are times when I have to repeatedly remind myself of all of the blessings around me and all of the things I have survived, endured, overcome, but it still feels as though it is just not enough.  Then there are times when on this entrepreneurial journey, where I question if leaving the comfort of my 9-5 was worth it, even though I know the job was killing me emotionally and mentally.  There are the times when there are more bills than money and more responsibilities than time in the day.

There are those moments when you make every attempt to be vulnerable and helpful only to end up misunderstood and judged.  The people you thought knew you best turn out to be as much of a stranger as people you don’t know at all.  You put on the makeup, the hair, the perfect outfit but you are no more than a mannequin on display for those around you.  The face is smiling but the eyes say nothing.

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The reality of the situation is that sometimes the hardest thing to do is to love yourself and the life you are living.  The other hard thing to do is to change your thinking, change your circumstances and change your situation.  Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t you are right”.  How true and powerful that statement is.  It is often hard to find peace in the darkness because the light exposes too much.

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I have come to realize that I am in a valley.  Not buried, definitely not dead but in a valley.  And while there are some not so good things in the valley, you can also find some great things in the valley.  So while I journey through this valley experience I can say with firm conviction:

I am ok

I am going to make it

I won’t be in the valley forever

Look out for the person that emerges from this valley; she will be a conqueror

This valley will make me stronger, wiser and better

 

Be Blessed Be Fabulous!

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