What’s Your Relationship Bar?


Recently, I have been having girl talk with several of my friends regarding their relationships.  We have all had those good, bad and indifferent relationships and as friends we have also shared our joy, fears and concerns.  Some of my friends are not quite sure what they want from their relationships, some friends have expressed fears such as a fear of being alone, while others are in a relationship and still feel lonely even though they are in a relationship.  All of these issues made my wonder does each person have a relationship bar?

Ok so what do I mean by relationship bar.  A relationship bar is the minimum requirements that you will accept in a relationship.  It is my opinion that as you grow and mature that you should raise the bar.  However for many people this may not be the case.

Relationship bars definitely vary from person to person and can also change according to what a person’s need and wants are for a relationship.  Some people may not have a relationship bar at all.  For some the bar can be their father, or just to opposite, someone who is the total opposite of their father.  For other women the bar could be set based on past relationships such as” I only want t be with someone who treats me better than my ex’, or it could be that they want someone who is just as good or equal to an ex (c0nsidering that it was a good relationship).


Whatever the case may be, setting a bar in a relationship can be helpful.  It can help you to determine if the person you are dating is a good fit.  A relationship bar can also help you to be clear about expectations in a relationship and help you to determine if a potential partner is right for you.  While definitely not a requirement, a relationship bar can save you from a lot of trouble, heartache and time.

Personally, it has been important for me to take some time in between relationships just to evaluate what lessons I may have learned, what lessons I may have failed and what ultimately worked and did not work for me during the relationship.  This is also my time to reevaluate my relationship criteria or my relationship bar and determine what I would like in a potential mate.  So my questions to my readers are….do you have a relationship bar and if so what is your relationship bar based on?


Be Blessed….Be Fabulous



My First Blogalicious

me-blogaliciousAt the beginning of November, I had the pleasure of traveling to Atlanta to attend my first ever Blogalicious conference.  First of all let me say KUDOS to the Stacey Ferguson and her team for providing am insightful, inspiration and empowering weekend for bloggers, brands and everyone in between.  Not only was there the opportunity to connect and experience the brands, the social suites, a new concept to me at these conferences was an amazing way to unwind, engage and experience everything the sponsors had to offer the conference attendees.

meblogalicioussignAs a lifelong learner, it is always an plus for me when I have the opportunity to engage, to learn and to find myself immersed in an environment where I can engage others, learn more about my craft and how to be and do better and to connect with those who have experience and knowledge to share.  Blogalicious provided all of that and much more.


From the very beginning of the weekend, being allowed to test drive the new vehicles by Kia, to a whiskey tasting and private party hosted by Jack Daniels as well as the personalized one on one media kit sessions, Blogalicious offered a little bit of everything for the blogger. Participants were also invited to attend a social engagement panel, book signings, by New York Time best selling author Luvvie Ajaye and former Apprentice contestant phenomenal Nely Galan.  There was even an opportunity to talk health with the Change the Cycle, suite and panel discussion about women’s health and fibroids.

I had an amazing weekend.  As expected I left the conference with much more than I came with (both knowledge and swag) and I was able to meet people that I have been friends with on Facebook and who I engage through blogging and social media and I met countless others who shared, laughed, cried and discussed so many topics during the weekend.

This was a weekend to learn, to grow, to network and to engage.  All of the reasons you spend your time and your money to go to a conference.  There were also wonderful extras added to the conference that made it more of an experience.  The caricature artist, the ability to have professional headshots taken after having a professional makeup application in the Dove suite.  Plenty of soft drinks and Coke floats provided by Coca-Cola,  the book signings and day party.  If anyone left this conference feeling anything other than inspired and a little more educated, and with a few more friends, then they surely did not experience the conference.  I am looking forward to what Blogalicious has in store for 2017.  I will be there!