What 2016 Taught Me

For me 2016 started off as the Year of Yes!.  I bought Shonda Rhimes book, settled in on the first day of the year and read the book from cover to cover.  I saw a lot of similarities between myself and Shonda Rhimes and found myself in a place where no had become the norm in my life.  Because of, well many reasons, no was my place of comfort, my big fluffy blanket, my safe zone.  If I could say no, that removed the responsibility, the obligation and the possible disappointment, frustration and/or hurt.  But then this Year of Yes thing came along.

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So what did the Year of Yes r 2016, teach me?  Just a few things.

1.  A closed mouth does not get fed.  You need to be open and vocal about what you want and/or what you need.  Make your requests known.  Let people know that you are in the room and that you exist.  If there is something on your mind or in your heart say it.  Do not allow life or opportunities pass you by simply because you didn’t speak up.new noorm2

2.  Yes can become your New Normal.  Yes can push your boundaries, however you are still in control and can ultimately redraw those boundaries.  Think of it as life gentrification.  Adjusting the boundaries of your life to fit the person that you are growing into.  Actually, this will be necessary as you open yourself up to things and experiences you may have previously shied away from.be good to yourself

3.  Don’t let the growing stop on December 31.  Carry what you have learned into the next year and keep improving on yourself and keep and keep making your life better.  Do not become stagnant after you just opened yourself up to all of these amazing opportunities.  Keep growing and keep thriving.

2016, as any year had its ups and downs.  There were some personal setbacks and there were also some personal gains.  The year ended on a very high note for me (more about that later).  I learned a lot, I experienced a lot and I changed a lot.  Change is an inside job and 2016 was a perfect example of that.  As I worked on my Year o Yes, I learned that most importantly, I needed to say yes to myself and to what I needed and what I desired and I learned in 2016 how to do that without feeling guilty or fearing judgment.

So 2016, thank you for the lessons learned.  Thank you for the friendship and relationships that developed, thank you for allowing me the freedom and the opportunity to be authentically me and to be free to soar.  Thank you for removing the Spirit of Stuck and allowing me to run and to walk when and to crawl when I needed to.  Thank you 2016 for showing me that the only thing that can stop me is Me.  2017, I have been expecting you and I cannot wait to see what you have in store for me.


Be Blessed! Be Fabulous!



Girls Night Out at the Circus


Last week I had the pleasure of attend the UniverSoul Circus here in Chicago.  Thank you to the promotions department at the UniverSoul Circus for gifting me with tickets.  For those of you who have never had the pleasure of attending the UniverSoul circus you should definitely put it on your to-do list.  For those of you who have attended you know that it is a great time for boy and girls and children of all ages.

As a single woman with no kids, a call to one of my bffs and a short ride to the circus made for a great mid-week meet up.  We laughed, we took photos with the clown, we danced, we ooh and aahed and had a genuine great time. This is not the circus for you if you are not into adventure and if you are not in the mood to have a good time.  There are many instances where the audience is invited to participate and who knows you just might find yourself inside of the ring dancing to the latest move music.


While this circus may not have as many animals in the show as other circuses.  This circus does offer parents the opportunity to have their children ride the elephants and camels, before the show and during the intermission. For those of us who attended without kids, there were still opportunities to buy the light up lasers we enjoyed as children and indulge in cotton candy, snoballs, popcorn and all of the other circus treats.


From the moment the show begins, with it’s international performers from all across the world (literally), to the final bow, the show leaves  you laughing, dancing and wanting more.  Not only do you feel as if you can reach out and touch the performers, the space is so intimate, the talent of the individuals who perform life threatening feats with no safety nets leaves you in awe.  I believe that the adults leave more excited than the children do.

This was a perfect girls night out.  My friend and I enjoy ourselves and were able to relax and have fun on a Tuesday night.  We laughed, we stared, we almost fainted when the BMX bikers did their stunts, we danced, we sang along and had a great time.  The UniverSoul Circus is definitely not an event you would want to miss when it comes to your town.  If you have already missed it look forward to next year.  If it has not been to your town yet, get your tickets now.


Stay Blessed…….Stay Fabulous