The past few weeks have been trying.  It has taken me a while to wrap my mind around all that has been going on in and around me.  No matter what your platform may be, there are times when you must stop.reflect.comment.breathe.pray (not necessarily in that order).  This is my recap of what has been going on around us lately.  I apologize in advance, this may be a long post.

For the past few years, we have watched as countless young men are harassed, harangued and murdered by their peers and the police.  Living in Chicago,  it is disheartening to see, the reports each and every Monday about how many people have been hurt or killed over the weekend.  It even appears that mother nature is watching because we have yet to truly have summer weather and people have been faring that the crime will be worst when the weather gets hot.  We are constantly trying to remember that #BLACKLIVESMATTER.  But really, do they?


This brings me to the recent events in Charleston where nine (9) innocent people we murdered senselessly during a Bible study.  In countless Black churches across America, on Wednesday nights, believers gather to “Hear a Word from the Lord”, while embracing a total stranger, little did those saints know that they would be offering the ultimate sacrifice that night.  Why were they murdered, because of the color of their skin.  How many years ago did Dr. King pray for a place where the color of our skin would not be the manner in which we were judged?  Yet still we are waiting for this day to come.


Now the Supreme Court ruling.  Another HUGE topic of debate and further divisiveness.  Dr. King asked to be judged on the content of their character.  Many have taken this ‘judgement’ too far to include who we love and who we choose to spend our lives with.  Ultimately, God should be the only judge.  Yet we want to debate what the Bible says and debate who is wrong and who is right and who needs to repent and who is a sinner.  My Bible tells me that my thoughts and God’s thoughts are so far apart from each other that it is inconceivable for me to even try to understand how God reasons.  Not to mention that the Bible was canonized by humans,  changed and translated throughout generations, some books were even left out and while it is and was inspired by God could it be that as often happens, humans took some liberty?   I’m just saying there could be some fallacy in what has been given to us.  But more importantly, if everyone was focused on their own lives and minding their own business, this would never have been an issue that required litigious solutions.


These are just some of the things that have been on my mind.  While it is wonderful to write about whatever we choose, there are times when you have to pause to make a public service announcement or when you have to address human issues and human rights issues.  This is my time.  There are times when life gets in the way and when you just have to pause and let people know that you are not living with your head in the clouds or up your ass.  Life is what happens when you are busy living.  These are in fact the days of our lives.


Suffering in Silence

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As I browsed my Facebook timeline this morning, I saw a number of posts speaking to personal, deeply personal issues many of my Facebook friends have been going through.  Most of it was related to illness.  Other posts were related to attempted suicide and survival, still other posts were related to dating or the attempt to find a suitable mate.  Some people were facing diagnostic tests and surgeries while others were reflecting on how far they have come on their journey.  No matter what the circumstance was I am thankful that they had the courage and conviction to share what they had gone through.  Their testimony can lead to a breakthrough or deliverance for someone else.

As I reflect, there were many things that I have experienced in my life and I am thankful that God has given me the strength and at times the platform to share my life experiences.  I was the product of teenage parents, yet I did not repeat the cycle.  I have had various family members that were addicted to alcohol or drugs, which had significant impacts not just on my life but on the lives of other family members as well.  I was molested as a child and I have endured health challenges and relationship issues.  But through it all, I survived, I looked for lessons to be learned and I became a better person because of what I experienced and in spite of what I experienced.

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For people of faith we know that if it had not been for the Lord on our side… For those who are not people of faith, I am not sure where your strength and endurance comes from maybe role models or strong support system, but for those who believe, in the absence of role models and support systems we go to the Rock!  It tales strength and courage to make it through those challenges that seem impossible to bear.  It takes even more strength and courage to talk about your experiences and to be a beacon of hope for others. What I have learned is that as you GROW through what you GO through the lesson is lost on you.  It is more so for others so that they can see God in you and know that THIS TOO SHALL PASS.

Stop suffering in silence.  We were not meant to do that.   We were meant to be a blessing to others, but, know that you cannot be a blessing until you have healed and dealt with the issues that you face.  You don’t want to try to help someone when you are still in the throes of your experiences.  Once you have healed, whether it be getting help from a professional, working on your own issues, reaching out to those who love you make sure to NOT suffer in silence.  And know that there is always a rainbow after the rain.