The New Normal

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There is a fact that America has to face.  Married life is not the norm anymore.  In fact there are more single in the world now more than ever before.  This is becoming the new normal.  Watch out world because here we come.

According to the US Census Bureau, single, professional, African American women are the largest growing demographic in the United States.  There are more single women that are heading households and running things.  Society would have us to think that there is something wrong with us, that we are too this or not enough of that (insert your this or that here).  The reality of the situation is that we are working more on us and less on please others.  We are learning that we do no have to apologize for getting that advanced degree or working longer hours so we can get that promotion.  As Beyoncé says “Who Run the World!”

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To all of the single women out there it is time to come out of hiding, it is time to no longer be ashamed because you are single.  As a matter of fact it is your time to shine.  It is time that we stop conforming to society to be who they think we should be and be proud of who we are and where we are at this point in our lives.  There is nothing wrong with marriage, I am a proponent of marriage when people marry for the right reasons and not just because they are lonely or pregnant.  There may be a time when marriage comes, but until then God has granted us lives to be lived not to be stagnant and waiting for what may or may not be.

The New Normal is the single, confident woman.  The woman that knows that she can be a dynamo in the boardroom and a loving and caring wife.  The New Normal is the woman who does not compromise because of some imaginary clock or the smooth talker that is attempting to sell her a dream.  The New Normal is the single woman that can be a Boss and a Blessing at the same time without skipping a beat.  The New Normal is the woman who is single and happy, not a depressed ‘spinster’ waiting on her knight in rusty armor.  We are the New Normal and we are proud because of this not in spite of this.



Preparing for Spring

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Last week I came across an article in one of my favorite local magazines Time Out Chicago.   Though not in print anymore, the magazine still offers excellent information not only about the happenings in and around Chicago but gives you things of special interest to consider.  The article was 101 things to do in Chicago. Sadly, though I have lived in Chicago pretty much all of my life there were only 13 things on the list that I have completed.  So my goal is to tackle this list and try to complete the list before the end of 2015.

The list can be printed as a checklist to allow you to check off what you have done.  This will be a great way to keep up with all of the new and exciting things going on in the city.  For me this is a perfect opportunity to experience the city, get out of my comfort zone and do some things that I may not have done otherwise.  It will also afford me the opportunity to experience more of the cultural side of the city, which is extremely diverse.  It can also be a great way to plan date nights or girl’s night out.

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I encourage all of my fellow Chicagoans and those who visit the city often to take a look at the list and jump right in.  I also encourage you to share as you make your way through the list I know that I will be sharing with my readers what I have been doing.