It is no secret that the majority of my friends are older and wiser. One of the pearls of wisdom they often shared with me was that once I get older I would stop letting other people’s opinions, ideas, and feeling affect me. This is something that I am beginning to embrace.
Maybe it is because my last birthday was a milestone birthday, but I have reached a point where I feel that apologizing for what I feel, think and believe is necessary. I know that it is not.
Oprah often shares what she knows for sure. What I know for sure is that as long as me and God are on great terms, there is little else to worry about. I may not always be right, I will make mistakes, I may speak out of turn or may act differently from what other people may think I should, but as long as it is well with my soul, I will make no apologies.
I know that my actions and/or reactions may often be unorthodox or viewed by others as incorrect, but I still sleep well at night despite what others may think. Ironically, recently I have begun to actually sleep, after years and years of being an insomniac. I think this is because I have reached an age where I have decided that the most important opinion of me and how I live my life belongs to God and not one else.
Now that does not mean that I am open to comments and suggestions. I am still seeking the pearls of wisdom that friends offer. I am thankful for the wisdom within my midst and for those who may have had similar experiences to what I may go through and what I may encounter. I value that because there are many people that pay for the sage advice that is available to me for free.
When you get to the point in life where you offer no apologies there is something liberating and encouraging about making your plans, failing and succeeding on your own terms and allowing God to move you through life as God sees fit without cause, instructions or provocation from anyone else. No apologies simply means that you have decided to put your big girl panties on and live life and life’s consequences on your own terms and in your own way. When that happens you make room for God to move in your life in ways that you may have never imagined. So look out work this girl is offering no apologies!
Happy Easter Everyone!
This will not be a blog about Easter per se or the resurrection of Jesus or anything of that manner. However, thinking about the Ressurection and why we celebrate Easter caused me to think about some things that as single, professional women we may need to resurrect.
I know too many professional women who have given up their personal lives in pursuit of the degree or the promotion. They burn the midnight oil, continue going when there is nothing left to give and the only thing they can think about is the next deadline or timeline or meeting. When was the last time you went out to dinner, not necessarily with anyone else, you could treat yourself to a night at the fancy restaurant as opposed to take out? What was the last movie you saw, not on Lifetime or Oxygen but in a theatre? We can become so absorbed in trying to shatter the glass ceiling that we forget about things that once brought us a moment of peace and comfort or solace. This may be an area in your life that needs resurrecting.
Many times because of our determination and drive to accomplish our next professional or educational goal, our friendships suffer. While this is never intentional it happens. At first you are pushing a deadline and forget to return a call or postpone a shopping trip or a night out. Then before you know it time has morphed into a weeks or months when you haven’t talked or communicated with friends. While some friends understand that this happens, others may feel some kind of way, but if they are true friends they should understand your hustle/struggle. There will be times however when you have to take your face out of the books or business reports and make the phone call or send a card in the mail (I am convinced that people like to get things in the mail other than bills). This may be an area in your life that needs resurrecting.
For many single professional women, this is an area of our lives that is just completely dead. Either we have given up, given in or just given out. We have tried the friend fix-ups, blind dates, internet dating, happy hour only to still find ourselves single and looking or searching or confused about what we want and how to get there. We have given up on love and have given up on worrying about the biological clock. We are sick of being harassed at family gatherings and looking at love this and love that on television. We refuse to hope. This may be an area of your life that needs resurrecting.
This is an area we may take for granted. When was your last checkup? When was the last time you went to see a doctor because it was a routine and not because you were sick? When was the last time you went to the gynecologist? If you are getting older it is time to check on what preventative and diagnostic test you need at the certain age such as mammograms, colonoscopies etc. How old are your glasses? We get so busy with life that we put ourselves on the back burner. Become a better steward of your temple. This may be an area of your life that needs resurrecting.
While there are many areas of our lives that may need resurrecting this is just a few. In this season of Spring and new growth and rejuvenation after a looooong winter, resurrecting some things may be just what is in order. Remember that you do not have to do it all at once. Focus on one area at a time, pick one thing that you truly want to work on and work it! As professional women we have proven to ourselves and to the world that we can do great things, now it is time to begin enjoying some of the comforts that our accomplishments bring.