You Can Be in Control


As women we often complain about things that we cannot do.  I cannot change the oil in my car, I cannot paint the house, I cannot unclog the toilet.  Now while many of these things are things that we may not want to do, they are things that we can learn to do.  Several of my blogs have been geared toward independence and independent living and provide examples of things we can do to be more independent.  This blog is a continuation of those things. 

Now let me be the first to say that I have no desire to change the oil in my car or paint the walls in my house.  I also hate plungers, yard work and heavy lifting.  I do however own a plunger, know the basics of an oil change and will rake or plant some flowers if I have to.  That is a large part of taking control, know how to do something as opposed to waiting for someone to do it for you.  I do not want to have to wait for the plumber at 2am, when I can simply plunge the sink or God forbid the toilet.  I do however realize and recognize my limitations.  So if the job becomes too big to handle I do know how to ask for help. 

One of the best tools I have found is YouTube.  There are videos for just about everything. If there is something you need to know or what to try you can guarantee that there is a video on YouTube that can guide you to what you are trying to do.  Personally, I have learned to thread a bobbin for a sewing machine I did not know how to use as well as learn to sew some simple projects from YouTube.  I have learned how to do a sew-in weave on my own head as well as how to advance in video games.

Make the most of the things you want to learn how to do.  Have a paint party with your friends and family, make it a group learning experience.  Find an auto dealership or mechanic that offers classes for women.  Check HomeDepot or Lowe’s to find out if they offer Plumbing 101, this is needed now more than ever since more women are purchasing homes without mates.  That 2am call to the plumber could become quite costly.  Who knows learning these new trades could also lead to hobbies that can earn you more cash or that can keep more cash in your pockets. 

 Taking control of your own life requires diminishing your dependence on others.  Knowing that you can and will be successful in everything you do, even the small things makes a big difference.  Increasing your knowledge base never hurt anyone and can only help to make you a better more knowledgeable person.  Do not let intimidation or fear or fear of failure hold you back, know that you can take control of your life and do as your heart desires.  


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My name is Sharice and I am the creative visionary behind This Single Sole. I started this blog in 2014 while working on my dissertation examining the lives of Single, Professional Women. My work focused on Single Professional women being the subjects of their own stories as opposed to the objects of media and other scrutiny. This Single Sole is a not just a blog for single professional women, it is a community where all are welcome and where anyone is encouraged to join the discussion. It is my sincere hope that everyone enjoys the content and that everyone feels open to participate. This Single Sole is evolving. We are now more focused on the Lifestyle of the single, professional woman and all things related to that life whether it is food, fashion or fun. There will be a lot of great things to discover as you navigate your way through this blog. For campaigns or contact information please email We look forward to working with you!

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