Bring On The Action


Who says that being single has to be dull and boring?  Being single can be adventurous and exciting.  It is up to you to determine what you want to do and how you want to do it.  You can get your team together to support you and in many cases participate in what you want to do.  Live your highest and best dreams and don’t allow anything or anyone to deter you from finding your action!

If you are unattached, and are not a parent, you have the freedom to come and go as you please and pick up at the spur of the moment and do whatever you please.  If you are a parent or married or part of a couple you may have to make plans, but action should still be a part of your life.  Sometimes when we become parents or married or coupled up we tend to become complacent and stay in on weekends, don’t go out anymore, sleep in and forget about all of the things we wanted to do.  Now while I am a huge fan of sleeping in, there are times when we have to bring the action to our lives. 

I have a friend who want to go sky diving.  Now while I would NEVER sky dive, I do support her dream to sky dive.  We (myself and another friend) decided that we would meet her in the park with lunch once her dive is over.  One of my desires is to zip line, either at a resort or down the Vegas strip, so when I make it to the Caribbean or Vegas I plan to explore my adventurous side.  Recently, I enjoy a night out clubbing.  While it has been years since I went to a club and enjoyed the music and danced and enjoyed a drink, it was a nice night with good company.  Now while it may be some time before I do that again, (when I got home I was knocked out) it was an action packed fun-filled night. 

Action does not stop because you are single.  Life should not stop because you are single, even if you are a single parent or in a relationship.  Everyone needs a little adventure in their lives and single women are no different.  Think about what you would like to do, run a marathon, sky dive, zip line, pole dance, drive a race car.  Whatever it is make plans and then do it.  Bring on the action, doing something is so much more fun than just talking about it.  I look forward to hearing about all of the adventures you all decide to take. 


You Can Be in Control


As women we often complain about things that we cannot do.  I cannot change the oil in my car, I cannot paint the house, I cannot unclog the toilet.  Now while many of these things are things that we may not want to do, they are things that we can learn to do.  Several of my blogs have been geared toward independence and independent living and provide examples of things we can do to be more independent.  This blog is a continuation of those things. 

Now let me be the first to say that I have no desire to change the oil in my car or paint the walls in my house.  I also hate plungers, yard work and heavy lifting.  I do however own a plunger, know the basics of an oil change and will rake or plant some flowers if I have to.  That is a large part of taking control, know how to do something as opposed to waiting for someone to do it for you.  I do not want to have to wait for the plumber at 2am, when I can simply plunge the sink or God forbid the toilet.  I do however realize and recognize my limitations.  So if the job becomes too big to handle I do know how to ask for help. 

One of the best tools I have found is YouTube.  There are videos for just about everything. If there is something you need to know or what to try you can guarantee that there is a video on YouTube that can guide you to what you are trying to do.  Personally, I have learned to thread a bobbin for a sewing machine I did not know how to use as well as learn to sew some simple projects from YouTube.  I have learned how to do a sew-in weave on my own head as well as how to advance in video games.

Make the most of the things you want to learn how to do.  Have a paint party with your friends and family, make it a group learning experience.  Find an auto dealership or mechanic that offers classes for women.  Check HomeDepot or Lowe’s to find out if they offer Plumbing 101, this is needed now more than ever since more women are purchasing homes without mates.  That 2am call to the plumber could become quite costly.  Who knows learning these new trades could also lead to hobbies that can earn you more cash or that can keep more cash in your pockets. 

 Taking control of your own life requires diminishing your dependence on others.  Knowing that you can and will be successful in everything you do, even the small things makes a big difference.  Increasing your knowledge base never hurt anyone and can only help to make you a better more knowledgeable person.  Do not let intimidation or fear or fear of failure hold you back, know that you can take control of your life and do as your heart desires.