As Valentine’s Day approaches, many women may find themselves thinking about the who, what, when, where and why of the date?  Will I have a date?  Who will it be?  Where will I meet him?  The questions can be endless.  However, instead of sitting around waiting for the date to find you, why not take a little initiative and find the date.  Or better yet, why not just have a little fun, a little harmless flirting never hurt anyone.

Many women are afraid to flirt or make the first move.  If you are just against being assertive and are waiting for Prince Charming to come charging into your life you may be a little unrealistic.  As professional women, we often find ourselves in charge and making decisions and may want to wait for the chivalrous man to do the flirting but the reality is there is nothing wrong with taking a little initiative and making the first move.  Here are just a few tips..

Eye contact.                                                                                                               

Eye contact is extremely important.  You can have a conversation simply by batting the eyelashes or as Tyra Banks would say Smizing (Smiling with your eyes).  Don’t stare the man down, or look at him as if you are studying him to give details to a police sketch artist.  You want to be alert and ladylike, it doesn’t hurt if the makeup is right as well.  The right kind of eye contact can let the man know that you are interested and can give him the encouragement he needs to spark a conversation.


There is nothing wrong with smiling.  As a matter of fact I am learning to smile more myself.  When out in public what man would approach a woman who looks like she is smelling dirty laundry?  A smile can open the window to a thousand tomorrows.  Smiling can be an ice breaker and can make the other person feel comfortable.  Don’t be afraid to smile.  You should also pay attention to what you are doing when you are out and about.  A crowded grocery store after a long hard day at work may not put a smile on your face, however when the person in the produce section with you looks like he should be on the cover of GQ magazine, then smiling could be the start of something new and great.


Have you ever heard the saying “Attitude is everything”?  The same is true when it comes to flirting.  Just like a man would not approach a woman who looked as if she had a bad attitude, you should watch your attitude when you plan to flirt.  We need to be mindful to rid ourselves from the cares of the world and life and not take it out on everyone you meet.  That means leave the work stress at work and the family drama with the family.  Do not let your attitude be a deterrent to sparking a conversation with someone who could possibly be your next date.


Men love women they can talk to.  Who wants to go on a date and feel as if you would rather be home watching paint dry?  No one.  Make sure you have many topics in your tool chest.  You may not know a great deal about sports or who is playing in the Superbowl or the NBA finals but you can at least know who your local teams are.  Show an interest in what he does for a living.  Let him talk and be attentive when listening, this is flirting at its best.

These are just a few tips I am offering when it comes to flirting.  Try them out this week.  With Valentine’s Day around the corner who knows one of these tips may seal the deal and get you a date.  If not they make for great practice throughout the remainder of this year.  So here’s to happy flirting!