Women are enjoying great success in their professional lives, pursuing and obtaining post-graduate and professional degrees as well as working in prestigious careers such as medicine, law, higher education and the physical and social sciences. The evidence demonstrates that as education increases for single, professional women, in many cases marriage rates decrease. As more women find success in the workplace and seek advanced degrees, their love lives appear to be suffering.
One thing that my research has shown is that statistics regarding single women are dismal. When you look at these statistics, the older we get the less likelihood that we will marry. If you only focus on what the statistics say I can see how so many single women end up depressed, defeated and down. However as the quote above states, WE are responsible for our happiness. It is up to us to choose life and life more abundantly. It is how we live, and by live I mean actually live, that determines how happy and successful we are. This means that happiness is a choice and life is for the living.
Here are some of those statistics
· Women are delaying marriage in pursuit of education and careers
· Census data shows that about 70% of African American women are not married
· National surveys show that 42% of women in corporate America do not have children
· African American women outnumber African American men 12:1
Instead of focusing on what the statistics say and focusing on what society says about being single or living single in a married world being single should not be viewed as a death sentence. What do you say about your circumstances? While you may not be able to change the fact that more women are delaying marriage and motherhood, and that in some ethnic groups women far outweigh men, there are many positive advantages to this delay. One reason for the delay is that many women are choosing to stay in school longer and earn higher degrees in order to further their careers, which ultimately benefits the family.
One of the reasons I started this blog was to show women that there are things we can do instead of waiting around for Mr. Right to fall out of the sky. We can learn new trades and how to do some things around the house (Home Depot sponsors ladies night out). However, you don’t want to know how to do it all because the plumber or electrician may be single and good looking. We can take trips with our girls or travel alone. We can go out to happy hours with or without our friends to meet new people and experience new venues.
What am I saying? I am saying that the possibilities are endless. The only limits we have are the ones we have placed on ourselves. Single and fabulous should be the new way of life in my opinion. This blog will be dedicated to discussing topics that contribute to single women finding their place in this ‘married’ world and being comfortable not where we are placed within that society but being comfortable in the space we create for ourselves. Queen Bey said it best when she sang “Who Run the World?” Girls!